Wednesday, 25 January 2017

Dealing with Anxiety

Anxiety is a taboo subject, some people suffer with anxiety horrifcly to the point of  panic attacks and taking medication for it. Some, like me can deal with it on their own. Now I am in no way saying that everyone should deal with it themselves, as for some it just isnt an option. For me, someone who doesnt suffer with a disorder, just a ridiculously panicky brain, a trait passed on from my worrier of a mother, I have found a way of calming my nerves and irrational thoughts. (Believe me they get pretty irrational)
For example, if my children are due home at 3.30 and they arent here on the dot, I am paceing the hallway thinking that something unspeakable must have happened. I worry if I am on a long journey without them that something is going to happen to me and they will be left without a mother. If we go somewhere new, I am more than likely panicking inside that they will get lost or there is a child snatcher about (todays society really doesnt help)
I know that part of this hysteria is just mum worry, being a mother, but I also know that for the most part, I really am irrational! I shouldnt pace one room to the other and my heart shouldnt be racing until those babies of mine walk back through that door. At one point i would be nervous for absolutely everything, school meetings, gp appointments, people just popping in for a cuppa. I knew it just wasnt usual to feel this nervous and so I decided to change. I learned some breathing techniques and changed my way of thinking. This is easier said than done for some I know, but for me it really works. Now if i start to feel anxious I close my eyes amd take slow deep breaths. In through the nose, out through the mouth. I picture a blank canvas. This usually calms me down and then I can reason with myself. "You are being irrational, relax!!" "Think of all the people who go through this very situarion unphased, relax!!"

I am so lucky that I have been able to help myself. My main focus in life is my children and I never ever want them to feel that illogical panic. They are my absolute inspiration, I want to explore with them freely, take them to new places, seize oppurtunities and travel.

I am a mum. I can be whatever I want to be.

Mrs Hx

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